Impact Play

Thud or sting

Impact toys fall roughly into two families. Broad, heavy surfaces such as wide paddles and suede floggers spread the force and give a deep, warming thud. Narrow tools such as crops, canes and single tail whips concentrate it into a sharp sting. Beginners usually enjoy thud first, so a classic leather paddle or a soft flogger is the natural starting point, with crops and canes following once you know how your partner responds.

Where to strike, and where not

Aim for fleshy, well padded areas: the buttocks, the back of the upper thighs and, with lighter toys, the upper back away from the spine. Avoid the kidneys, the spine, the neck, joints and the face. Start slowly and softly, build intensity gradually and keep checking in. A traffic light system of green, yellow and red works well alongside a safeword.

Combining impact with other play

Many people enjoy impact while restrained or blindfolded, because the anticipation heightens every stroke. Wrist cuffs from our bondage and restraints range or a padded blindfold add a new layer, but they also make communication more important, so agree on a hand signal beforehand.

Aftercare and cleaning

After a scene, a cool cloth, a soothing lotion and some quiet time together help both partners land. Wipe leather toys with a damp cloth and leather cleaner, and disinfect steel, acrylic or silicone tools before every use, especially if the skin has been broken.

Frequently asked questions